Dudes need to understand that women get sexually harassed by the creepiest, most disgusting sad sacks of poop that the bowels of this earth have to offer in this weather. It is traumatizing. It makes our skin crawl, our stomachs turn, and our blood boil, all in the same three-second span of time. Often that is followed by the feeling of helplessness, and feeling stupid and/or angry because THERE AIN'T SHIT I CAN DO ABOUT IT. I can't spit in the asshole's face or cuss him out like I want to, because there is always the threat that it could escalate past a point that I am physically able to handle.
So when you come up to me all poised in fuckboy position to say some slick shit, like "I love you," or "smile," or, "you're beautiful," (or some other smug comment thinly-veiled in fake ass "positivity" that you'll inevitably try and defend as well-intentioned, though I don't know how anything other than "hi, how are you/ have a good day/etc" & the like isn't an attempt to try an assert some kind of sick masculine bullshit agenda over me as I'm MINDING MY DAMN BUSINESS AND GETTING TO WHERE I HAVE TO GO) and I don't immediately worship you and throw myself at your feet like you so obviously are fishing for, OR EVEN SAY THANK YOU you need to fucking deal with it because your brothers are out here on street corners city-wide robbing you of any possible pleasantries in such interactions.
When a strange dude, well dressed, or not, cute, or not, light skinned or dark skinned, clean or dirty, drunk or sober, comes up to me I AM IMMEDIATELY SKEPTICAL. Because AT LEAST (AT. LEAST.) 75% of my interactions with men I don't know on these streets in sundress season ARE FUCKING DISGUSTING. Any response I give a creep like that is an excuse for him to take my inch and make it a mile. And I don't know which one of you is creep and which ones aren't. So in the name of self preservation, I am walking duh fuq on by because I DON'T TRUST YOU. You have a better chance if you are politely saying hello, have a good day, and maintaining your damn distance. But even then. I'm not stopping for you, or giving you anything you can interpret as a green light. AND THAT'S JUST HOW IT IS, BECAUSE YOUR PEERS (AND IN SOME CASES, YOU) SUCK, AND MAKE LIFE DIFFICULT FOR US. IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, TALK TO YOUR HOMIES. I can't offer you anything else.
And don't you dare comment on here telling me about being "open minded." Are you "open minded" in areas where you KNOW people will pull up on you and mug you if you look like a target? C'mon. Don't be stupid. I know you New York men know about guarding yourself carefully on the street. We are concerned with that every moment of the day.